Archive for Online Dating
This is from researchers at UC Berkeley’s School of Information. In a study of online dating, researchers found that:
Appearances count. No duh. Why do you think so many 40-year-olds use circa 1985 photos to lure you in? And don’t even get me started on the evils of Photoshop.
Don’t waste a lot of time going back and forth online. Stories where couples report falling in love before they’ve ever met have always given me the willies. It’s so easy to look hot and appealing via well-thought-out emails and carefully edited photos. Chemistry is one of the many things impossible to ascertain via the internet, because if he smells of rotting cheese and boiled fish heads, you won’t know that until you’re seated across from him. Not to mention, when someone puts off meeting you IRL, it’s generally because they’re married.
Men lie about their height, women lie about their weight. Researchers found that men add an extra half-inch, while women “lose” an average of five pounds. In my estimation, these are extremely conservative measurements. Oddly enough, there was no mention of age liars, which run rampant regardless of gender.
Women are more likely to want to stick with their own kind. Apparently women are less likely to want to date outside their ethnicity. Nearly twice as many women as men specified that they wanted someone of the same racial background as themselves. This was the one finding that I was actually surprised, and appalled, to read.
The median age of online daters is 42 for men, 41 for women. Since we already know everyone lies about their age, I suspect this is more like 47 for men, 46 for women (though I have no credentials to back up my hypothesis; just a lot of anecdotal evidence). This makes sense since the older you get, the more difficult it is to meet people. It’s not like your average 50-year-old is going to pick up a dude at Bikram yoga or playing kickball.
Women were more likely to be freaked out when men used the word “love;” while men had a similar reaction to the word “hate” in a woman’s profile. This is simple–men who toss around the L-word too soon are usually full of crap. Women who hate a lot of things come across as bitter and angry–which is more of a turnoff than a stray chin hair or those five extra pounds you’ve been lying about.
Online dating is now the norm for singles with large parts of the population utilizing various online dating services.
OnlineSchools has compiled some startling online dating statistics that offer a revealing glimpse into the wild world of web romance.
See the online dating stats in the infographic below.
A few highlights:
* One out of ten users on online dating sites are scammers; one out of ten users leave within the first 3 months; and one out of ten sex offenders reportedly use online dating to meet people.
* One out of three women who meet men online have sex on the first encounter.
* Online, men lie most about their age, height, and income. Women, on the other hand, lie most about their weight, physical build, and age.
ABC4NEWS — About 20% of couples meet online today. The other more
traditional ways include meeting through friends, at school and at work.
Dr. Gonzaga is a senior research scientist at eHarmony whose life career is
to study the success of online dating. He goes as far as to say he thinks
online dating users will have a lower divorce rate in the future than those
who meet through other means. Dr. Gonzaga says eHarmony manages to set up
236 marriages a day simply because the survey matches ‘like with like.’
Contrary to the popular adage, the love doctor says, “opposites ‘do’
attract…but then, they attack.”
In a recent Reuter’s article the stock market woes have given single folks a kick and has driven them in large numbers to start looking on line for love. Going online is not only a distraction from the financial whipsaw of the market, but it’s saving singles money, according to dating Web sites.
Several online dating sites have reported an increase in memberships since the global financial crisis hit in September as people seek a companion during tough times and save money on face-to-face dates by searching for potential partners on the Internet.
“On days when the U.S. Dow Jones industrial (average) went down by a lot, by more than 100 points, more people were likely to log in and spend more time on the site,” Gian Gonzaga, senior research scientist at Web site eHarmony told Reuters.
“It makes a lot of sense. People seek out companionship in times of stress. Studies repeatedly show that being in a relationship can help a person’s psychological and physical health.”
The Dow Jones industrial average is down 35 percent this year, hitting a year low on November 21, and presenting a new situation for the relatively new online dating industry which has only gone through one economic crisis before, after the 9/11 attacks on the United States.
Match.com, an online dating service, said it had experienced its largest membership growth over the last seven years in November as the daily drumbeat of bad economics sent people looking for love.
“During these trying times, people are looking for hope in their inbox,” said Thomas Enraght-Moony, CEO of Match.com which has online dating sites in 40 countries.
Perfectmatch.com reported a 47 percent jump in the number of members in the three months to November compared to the previous quarter, supporting theories that online dating could be a countercyclical business that does well in an economic downturn.
A poll by Opinion Research Corp., conducted on behalf of eHarmony, found that 57 percent of Americans said the credit crunch made them worry about their love lives with married men the most stressed group with 63 percent of them concerned.
But when researchers divided the 1,092 respondents into age groups, those aged between 25 and 34 were most stressed about the impact their personal economic situation would have on their love lives, with 75 percent of them concerned.
However, researchers found that younger, single people who were stressed about the economy and its impact were more likely to seek out a relationship.
Older people, who were more likely to be married, were concerned that financial stress would harm their relationship, particularly if they feared losing their job or their house.
“When people are stressed they want to find a relationship but if they are in relationship, that extra stress will make that relationship that bit harder,” said Gonzaga, adding that similar surveys in Australia and Britain came up with the same results.
“Stress gets under the skin of relationships. Partners spend less time together because they have to work more. There are often more fights over bills and household budgets.”
With all the talk of the slow and spending along with a drop in profits in retail and restaurants one would think that online dating would suffer. The reality is that online dating increases as singles strive even harder to find a relationship. Studies show that married couples are healthier and don’t have the stress of singles, most likely because they share expenses and can share both the good and the hard times. Some of the top dating sites have seen spikes in traffic, some over 40%. In particular, “relationship” and “marriage minded” sites such as Eharmony.com, PerfectMatch.com, Chemistry.com and Match.com have seen larger increases compared with sites that cater to casual dating.
In a tough economy the cost of finding a date is crucial. A membership on most sites is around $1.00 a day which is a huge savings over the time and cost put into gas and spending on drinks and bars and coming home empty. Most folks won’t put their love life on hold because the economy is down. It’s just time to adjust spending habits, invest a small part in a quality online relationship service instead of running to a string of unproductive and expensive nights at a local pub. Find a relationship today!
Marriage/Relationship Type Sites:
Eharmony.com strong relationship/marriage site based on values and religious faith…..good for Christians and Catholics
PerfectMatch.com relationship oriented for all faiths, non-religious
Chemistry.com relationship oriented for all faiths, non-religious
Match.com relationship and more casual dating