The following article was published by Reuters about factors that keep a couple together. A couple of themes:
1. Couples where the partners are close in age tend to last longer and have less divorce. The study found that a husband who is nine or more years older than his wife is twice as likely to get divorced, as are husbands who get married before they turn 25. So guys looking for younger women, you are 50% more likely to have a divorce.
2. Couples where one partner smokes and the other doesn’t smoke are more likely to end up divorced.
3. Partners who are on their second or third marriage are 90 percent more likely to separate than spouses who are both in their first marriage.
4. Women who want children much more than their partners are also more likely to get a divorce.
The study, entitled “What’s Love Got to Do With It,” tracked nearly 2,500 couples — married or living together — from 2001 to 2007 to identify factors associated with those who remained together compared with those who divorced or separated. The study was done by researchers from the .
What Does Today’s Single Woman Want In A Man?
Single women today are financially independent and value how a guy treats them as a person more than how much a man makes. What is a single woman today looking for in a man?
1. Honesty and Trust
5. Sense of Humor
8. Old Fashioned Manners
10. Love and Friendship
In a recent Reuter’s article the stock market woes have given single folks a kick and has driven them in large numbers to start looking on line for love. Going online is not only a distraction from the financial whipsaw of the market, but it’s saving singles money, according to dating Web sites.
Several online dating sites have reported an increase in memberships since the global financial crisis hit in September as people seek a companion during tough times and save money on face-to-face dates by searching for potential partners on the Internet.
“On days when the U.S. Dow Jones industrial (average) went down by a lot, by more than 100 points, more people were likely to log in and spend more time on the site,” Gian Gonzaga, senior research scientist at Web site eHarmony told Reuters.
“It makes a lot of sense. People seek out companionship in times of stress. Studies repeatedly show that being in a relationship can help a person’s psychological and physical health.”
The Dow Jones industrial average is down 35 percent this year, hitting a year low on November 21, and presenting a new situation for the relatively new online dating industry which has only gone through one economic crisis before, after the 9/11 attacks on the United States.
Match.com, an online dating service, said it had experienced its largest membership growth over the last seven years in November as the daily drumbeat of bad economics sent people looking for love.
“During these trying times, people are looking for hope in their inbox,” said Thomas Enraght-Moony, CEO of Match.com which has online dating sites in 40 countries.
Perfectmatch.com reported a 47 percent jump in the number of members in the three months to November compared to the previous quarter, supporting theories that online dating could be a countercyclical business that does well in an economic downturn.
A poll by Opinion Research Corp., conducted on behalf of eHarmony, found that 57 percent of Americans said the credit crunch made them worry about their love lives with married men the most stressed group with 63 percent of them concerned.
But when researchers divided the 1,092 respondents into age groups, those aged between 25 and 34 were most stressed about the impact their personal economic situation would have on their love lives, with 75 percent of them concerned.
However, researchers found that younger, single people who were stressed about the economy and its impact were more likely to seek out a relationship.
Older people, who were more likely to be married, were concerned that financial stress would harm their relationship, particularly if they feared losing their job or their house.
“When people are stressed they want to find a relationship but if they are in relationship, that extra stress will make that relationship that bit harder,” said Gonzaga, adding that similar surveys in Australia and Britain came up with the same results.
“Stress gets under the skin of relationships. Partners spend less time together because they have to work more. There are often more fights over bills and household budgets.”
Women go through phases in dating men where they wonder about the status of the relationship. The woman becomes antsy, the man gets distant. And this leads to the biggest mistake a woman can make with a man. The following are the top ways to turn off your guy.
- You start a conversation about the relationship and then you let him have it!
- You dump all your desires, fears, frustrations and dreams…poured out in one big emotional explosion.
- Complaining about the current state of the relationship
- Talking about the things he does wrong with you.
- Showing your frustrations about what you feel is missing
- Becoming upset that he doesn’t feel how you’d like him to feel
- Bringing up past issues, arguments or disappointments
The arguing and yelling only creates a lot of emotional tension and “drama”. Especially in the guys mind. This is THE LAST THING you want to do with a man. That tension that’s created stays with him, and he NEVER forgets it. In his mind, he now thinks of you as “hysterical” and full of issues. His mind defines you by what he saw in your behavior, and it scares him.
Men are CLUELESS when it comes to figuring out the things that are “obvious” to women in dating and relationships. It’s important to remember to take on the perspective of talking about what you want AND what HE wants. If you can make a guy feel like you put his feelings and needs first in this conversation, and always consider what he wants, I promise he will LOVE YOU for it!
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With all the talk of the slow and spending along with a drop in profits in retail and restaurants one would think that online dating would suffer. The reality is that online dating increases as singles strive even harder to find a relationship. Studies show that married couples are healthier and don’t have the stress of singles, most likely because they share expenses and can share both the good and the hard times. Some of the top dating sites have seen spikes in traffic, some over 40%. In particular, “relationship” and “marriage minded” sites such as Eharmony.com, PerfectMatch.com, Chemistry.com and Match.com have seen larger increases compared with sites that cater to casual dating.
In a tough economy the cost of finding a date is crucial. A membership on most sites is around $1.00 a day which is a huge savings over the time and cost put into gas and spending on drinks and bars and coming home empty. Most folks won’t put their love life on hold because the economy is down. It’s just time to adjust spending habits, invest a small part in a quality online relationship service instead of running to a string of unproductive and expensive nights at a local pub. Find a relationship today!
Marriage/Relationship Type Sites:
Eharmony.com strong relationship/marriage site based on values and religious faith…..good for Christians and Catholics
PerfectMatch.com relationship oriented for all faiths, non-religious
Chemistry.com relationship oriented for all faiths, non-religious
Match.com relationship and more casual dating