Mistakes Women Make With Men
By · CommentsWomen go through phases in dating men where they wonder about the status of the relationship. The woman becomes antsy, the man gets distant. And this leads to the biggest mistake a woman can make with a man. The following are the top ways to turn off your guy.
- You start a conversation about the relationship and then you let him have it!
- You dump all your desires, fears, frustrations and dreams…poured out in one big emotional explosion.
- Complaining about the current state of the relationship
- Talking about the things he does wrong with you.
- Showing your frustrations about what you feel is missing
- Becoming upset that he doesn’t feel how you’d like him to feel
- Bringing up past issues, arguments or disappointments
The arguing and yelling only creates a lot of emotional tension and “drama”. Especially in the guys mind. This is THE LAST THING you want to do with a man. That tension that’s created stays with him, and he NEVER forgets it. In his mind, he now thinks of you as “hysterical” and full of issues. His mind defines you by what he saw in your behavior, and it scares him.
Men are CLUELESS when it comes to figuring out the things that are “obvious” to women in dating and relationships. It’s important to remember to take on the perspective of talking about what you want AND what HE wants. If you can make a guy feel like you put his feelings and needs first in this conversation, and always consider what he wants, I promise he will LOVE YOU for it!
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Dating In A Tough Economy
By · CommentsWith all the talk of the slow and spending along with a drop in profits in retail and restaurants one would think that online dating would suffer. The reality is that online dating increases as singles strive even harder to find a relationship. Studies show that married couples are healthier and don’t have the stress of singles, most likely because they share expenses and can share both the good and the hard times. Some of the top dating sites have seen spikes in traffic, some over 40%. In particular, “relationship” and “marriage minded” sites such as Eharmony.com, PerfectMatch.com, Chemistry.com and Match.com have seen larger increases compared with sites that cater to casual dating.
In a tough economy the cost of finding a date is crucial. A membership on most sites is around $1.00 a day which is a huge savings over the time and cost put into gas and spending on drinks and bars and coming home empty. Most folks won’t put their love life on hold because the economy is down. It’s just time to adjust spending habits, invest a small part in a quality online relationship service instead of running to a string of unproductive and expensive nights at a local pub. Find a relationship today!
Marriage/Relationship Type Sites:
Eharmony.com strong relationship/marriage site based on values and religious faith…..good for Christians and Catholics
PerfectMatch.com relationship oriented for all faiths, non-religious
Chemistry.com relationship oriented for all faiths, non-religious
Match.com relationship and more casual dating
Online Dating site Match.com is getting ready to start a new summer TV campaign that targets single men. The campaign is called “Too Many Women” and is accompanied by a 7 day free trial offer.
Single men were the first to try online dating with the advent of the internet, and in the beginning made up 60-70% of online dating sites. Over time, the women have caught up and surpassed the number of men on online dating sites.
Men that sign up for the free trial before the 14 September will get one week free. The offer will be accompanied by the original and best ‘make love happen guarantee’ from match.com which promises that those signing up who don’t find love in six months, will get six months free.
Three Steps to a Successful Date
By · CommentsWhen you are out on a date, focus on the 1-2-3 steps for dating success:
1. Create a Connection
You have to resonate with your date by developing rapport. Focus on what you have in common and start a conversation about those items. If he is into golf, and you are into golf, ask him where he likes to play golf and get him talking about golf.
Stay positive and talk about restaurants, movies, sports and other items you both like. Maybe you both saw an independent film that you can talk about. Don’t talk about previous relationships, what your date does for a living, about their family or delve into religion or politcs.
The objective is to find ways to connect based on common interests. Most people date and marry those who are enough like us that we know we’ll have fun together.
2. Develop Chemistry
Once you have a connection based on common interests, focus on body language. Men not only love it when a women takes the lead in showing him that she’s attracted, but some men can be clueless. Use small gestures sucy as smiling and looking shyly down at your plate or your glasss. Use your hands to play with any object at hand: your glass, the napkin, a lock of your hair. Whenever a silence falls in your conversation, don’t feel like you have to fill it up. When the time is right, reach over and touch his arm to direct his attention to something. Order an unusual dish that you can try together.
3. Show Honesty and Candor
Be more direct as you become comfortable with your date by opening up about more personal topics, like your favorite role models, your funniest dating experiences. You should be relaxed enough that you feel you can really be yourself. If you’re attracted to one another, tell your date. So many dates end badly simply because both parties were too afraid to say or show that they were interested. Tell your date you are having a great time and that he/she is great company. This way your date knows he’s being given the green light to kiss you or ask you out on another date.
If you aren’t interested, say something like “It’s been nice meeting you, or I had a nice time…… and I wish you the best of luck meeting Mr./Mrs. Right. Maybe we’ll see each other online again.” Or “I don’t feel we resonate on a romantic level but I enjoyed this evening.” These are polite ways to tell a date that you aren’t interested but that you them the best.
Would Your Date Be A Cheater?
By · CommentsOver 500 men were polled for an unscientific survey in April on Don’t Date Him Girl. A whopping 67% of them said they would be monogamous if they knew how to deal with the temptations they face every day.
Many of the men they polled said they want to be faithful, but no one ever gave them a 12-step plan for staying monogamous. Another interesting piece of information:what a woman thinks is cheating isn’t the same as what a man thinks. Which means there is definitely a anguage barrier between the sexes when it comes to monogamy and faithfulness.
Men were also asked if cheating would become a thing of the past if men had a guide to staying faithful. According to 33% of men who responded to the poll, they said that even if they knew how to stay faithful, it would be difficult because they are programmed by society to lust after women and usually more than one at a time. Which in turn leads them into temptation and infidelity.
Other interesting love stats from the survey:
- 73% of men in the survey kept secrets from their significant others
- 21% of men in the survey visit sexually-oriented websites at least once a day while in a relationship
- 56% of men in the survey fantasize about other women while in a relationship
- 8% of men in the survey have virtual sex online with a person they don’t know personally at least once a week while in a relationship