Why do men stay single?  Why do men have issues with commitment?  Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?

The ten reasons why single men won’t commit:
1. Single men can get sex from a single woman without marriage more easily than in times past.  Single men view single women they meet in bars and dance clubs as casual sex partners rather than as someone they would marry. Many men can get a night in bed with a single woman they meet in a bar without even paying for dinner. However, once they have casual sex, men say, they are less respectful and interested in pursuing a relationship with a woman.
2. Single men can have the benefits of having a wife by living with a woman rather than marrying.
3. Single men want to avoid divorce and its financial risks.
4. Single men want to wait until they are older to have children. Many single men think they have a longer biological clock than woman and point to Larry King. The reality is that most single men aren’t aware of the genetic problems associated with the paternal age of a father over 40. See Male Biological Clock NYT Many single men who do want to have children are starting to realize that they want to be at a young enough age to enjoy them and really don’t want to be a grandfather to their child.
5. Single me fear that marriage will require too many changes and compromises
6. Until they find a soul mate, however, single men are willing to wait to get married. They don’t want to “settle” for second best in their choice of a marriage partner, though they don’t have the same standards for a choice of a live-in girlfriend. Some single men see their live-in girlfirend as a second best partner while they continue to look for a soul mate.
7.Single men face few social pressures to marry.  Single men today have little traditional pressures from religion, employers or society to marry. Some single men will experience mild, teasing pressures from parents who wanted grandchildren, or from married buddies, but they shrugged this off. Some single men will think about marriage when their friends began to get married. But the effect of some of their friends’ divorces and doomed relationships keep single men from feeling pressure to marry
8. Single men avoid dating and are reluctant to marry a woman who already has children.  Some single men are uncomfortable with being thrust into the role of a play “daddy.” Also, the feel bad if they establish a relationship with the children and then break up with their mother. And most single men don’t want to avoid competition and conflict with the children’s biological father
9. Single men want to be financially “set” before they marry. For many men, this means owning a house before they marry
10. Single men want to enjoy their single lifestyle as long as they can. Many single men want to soe their “wild oats”.  Single men who have gone through this stage can become stable committed partners that have matured and grown up to become better partners.

 

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Apr
30

Would Your Date Be A Cheater?

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Over 500 men were polled for an unscientific survey in April on Don’t Date Him Girl. A whopping 67% of them said they would be monogamous if they knew how to deal with the temptations they face every day.

Many of the men they polled said they want to be faithful, but no one ever gave them a 12-step plan for staying monogamous. Another interesting piece of information:Â what a woman thinks is cheating isn’t the same as what a man thinks. Which means there is definitely a anguage barrier between the sexes when it comes to monogomy and faithfulness.

Men were also asked if cheating would become a thing of the past if men had a guide to staying faithful.  According to 33% of men who responded to the poll, they said that even if they knew how to stay faithful, it would be difficult because they are programmed by society to lust after women and usually more than one at a time.  Which in turn leads them into temptation and infidelity.

Other interesting love stats from the survey:

  • 73% of men in the survey kept secrets from their significant others
  • 21% of men  in the survey visit sexually-oriented websites at least once a day while in a relationship
  • 56% of men  in the survey fantasize about other women while in a relationship
  • 8% of men  in the survey have virtual sex online with a person they don’t know personally at least once a week while in a relationship
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How do you put your best foot forward and make a good impression on a first date? Focus on avoiding anything that will turn off your date. Here are some items that turn off single men about the women they date:
1. A date with bad breath
2. Their date can’t hold a conversation
3. She says yes to everything
4. Their date has a bad attitude
5. A woman with bad hygiene. Take a shower before your date!
6. A woman who plays “stupid” and doesn’t show her intelligence.
7. Man Haters. A woman who holds grudges or is bitter towards men. 
8. A woman with cynical or weird humor.
9. Rudeness to wait staff at restaurants and other public service help.
10. Using foul language.  It’s unladylike.  A guy thinks about bringing you around friends, collegues, and family.
11. A woman who is too shy or lacks of confidence
12. She doesn’t find the guy funny.  If you don’t smile and laugh it makes a guy uncomfortable
13. Judgemental, opinionated or critical-women who make assumptions about you before they get to know you tend to interject with “comments” that are judgemental.
14. A woman who spends the date interrogating him.  Getting to know someone is done over time.  If a man feels like his date is cross examining him with the skill of an attorney, he’ll run.
15. Talking about an ex boyfriend or husband.  Men don’t want to hear about how bad the last guy was.

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Apr
21

Ten Reasons I Won’t Date You

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Online dating has it’s moments. The weird and icky people you come across as you peruse the profiles your search. And the even more bizarre folks that write you. Here are the reasons single women will hit the DELETE button:

10. Your entire profile consists of some of the following phrases:

“fun-loving”, “open-minded” and “looking for that “special friend, lover” sounds like you are just looking for sex or exotic sex
“I’ll tell you later” in response to questions posed by the online dating service (tells us you are uncommitted to an answer, lazy, or just looking for something casual).
“Simple man” tells us that you are a bore.
“No Mind Games Please” tells us you have had bad experiences with women and don’t trust them.
“Laid-back and “enjoying life to its fullest” We all love fun. Everyone seems to think they are laid back. They are NOT. And if you were living life to its fullest, you would  be having on hot date right now instead of messing around on the internet trying to find someone to have it with.

9. Your online dating profile has:
-the number “69” such as Steve 69 I don’t care of you were born in 1969, the sexual innuendo in your profile name is enough to make me run.
-a name that make me want to run: knight in shining armor, knight, tiger, prince, king, vegas, cat, rat, poke, passionate, fox, hound, player, toy
-“New Friends Wanted or Lonely”-makes you sound like a desperate loner
– “A package deal” with a photo of your kids tells me your kids come first and we will never have alone time.

8. All of your photos were taken by yourself, using a cell phone camera or webcam. Get some friends to take you photo. By the way, we can tell by the hair cut and the clothes the photo is ten years old.

7. You are way out of my age range . I am not looking for a rich sugar daddy or celebrity, nor am I looking for a boy. If you are old enough to have kids in college. or young enough to think that stolen street signs are appropriate decor, do not contact me.

6. Your photo is shirtless/bare-chested. Sorry, but when we see a photo of a guy from a computer web cam bare-chested we assume he sits at his computer naked, and plays with himself while watching porn.

5. Currently separated is NOT legally divorced. I don’t care you are a week from signing the papers. Don’t wink or email me until the papers have been signed. In fact, don’t‚ wink until you’ve had a year or two to adjust. I’m really not interested in being your rebound relationship. Actually, don’t wink until you’ve been divorced long enough to at least question whether or not your marriage was that bad, and you’re really ready to get into a long-term relationship again. And if it was divorce #3, don’t wink, don’t email, don’t bother me.

4. If your hair is longer than mine, I don’t think you are a rebel, I think you have gender issues. My world is a mullet-free, clean cut, clean shaven zone.

3. Ball caps are for frat boys, or outdoor sports and beards tell me you are too lazy too shave or a secretive person. If I see you in a “lid” I assume I will have to see you in person wearing a “lid” all the time. We also assume a guy in a lid for a primary photo is hiding a bald head or a rug. Oh, and goatees are so 2000. Get with the times. Your main photo should show your full face, hair cut, and cleanly shaved

2. Spell and grammer check. Use it.

1. If I enjoyed exchanging raunchy emails and phone calls with perfect strangers, I would be getting paid for it. When I receive emails and calls that are raunchy I assume you do prostitutes. YUK!

Whether it’s your profile or an email you are sending, think about this ten items as you write and the impression you are giving your online love interest.

One of the singles blogs was discussing a single dad’s frustration with dating and the difficulty of dating single women who were not a parent and finding dates.  Here are some items to consider. Anyone with a variety of dating experience, has come to the realization that there are many differences between a single woman without children dating a single dad versus a dating man without children:

  1. Many single, childless women immediately cross you off their list when they found out that you had kids.
  2. When you date a single dad, his children are his first priority (and if they aren’t he isn’t worth dating). That is hard for a woman who has no children, and is used to being the most important thing in her partner’s life. No matter what their age, ‘single women’ just can not ‘compete’ with a young child.
  3. Women often become very attached to the children, and it can be quite hard to leave them if things don’t work out.
  4. It is hard to do spontaneous, romantic things when your partner has custody of children.
  5. A single dad has to deal with an ex-wife and have frequent communication with for the sake of the child/ren.
  6. Love and building a relationship is emotionally and time consuming & becomes confusing when bringing kids from another relationship into the picture.  For many single women, the thought of raising ‘other people’s children’ is both much too confusing & generally a turn off.  Many single women are just not ‘ready’ to become an ‘instant’ mommy.
  7. Some women actually do not like kids, not now, not ever.
  8. When there are children from another relationship, a good part of your time is spent double dating with the children and not romancing and flirting.
  9. Time:Single dads have to deal with child custody arrangements, and childcare schedules, so there are just less times when they are available to play or go out on the town.those of us who are parents can at times be considered a bit of a drag by our childless friends.There is less flexibility and the certainty that you will have to work around his schedule, because he’s the one with the child. There is also the fact that you have to be understanding that he has to spend time with his child, and that he may not have money to spend on you because he’s paying child support, or he will be tired and not want to go out because he was up with his sick child the night before. Single dads have to leave their phone on all the time because it may be his ex calling about their kid.He may cancel plans with to accommodate his child or sometimes his ex who may need a favor
  10. It’s difficult to deal with the breakup and also realize you’re never going to be able to see the kids again if it doesn’t work out with the single dad.

The best option for a single dad is finding a great single mom, who will understand and appreciate all of child’s needs, or on childless women past their childbearing years, who would prefer to be a stepmother than having their own biological children. You may be a great guy, and good looking, but most childless women would rather be with a guy that they could create their own family with, without all of the problems caused when you try to blend families. A woman wants to be first in a relationship, and it’s hard enough when you meet people who are workaholics or sports fanatics, add “parent” to that list and you have virtually no quality time.

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