Times have changed and singles have so many ways to communicate with each other. Singles want to appear and so texting and emailing has become more common.

 

The question is should you text or email a potential date rather than call and when is it appropriate to call vs. text or email a potential date or someone you are currently dating?

 

Texting is overused and can be construed by women as I guy being when it comes to calling. So why do men choose texting and emailing over calling?

 

1. Men Fear Rejection: Singles men text and email potential dates as an easy way to approach women that could reject them as it is easier to put in the effort of a few minutes rather than a ½ hour to hour long phone conversation and then finding that the potential date does not want to go on a date with them.
2. Shyness/Awkwardness: Single men can be shy and afraid they will mess up in the first conversation after they get a woman’s card or contact information.
3. Gadget Oriented: Single men love to play with gadgets so texting gives them the opportunity to play with a gadget.
4. Succinct Communication-Some single men are really paranoid about screwing up their first approach and find an email gives them the opportunity to write out what they want to say, in hopes they get it right.
5. Calling single women is more personal. Some men want to have control over how close they get to a woman by testing the single woman he has interest in with a text or email before putting the effort and time into a phone call.
6. Texting is more popular with singles that are in their 20’s to early 40’s. Most singles in their 50’s and 60’s don’t text much unless they have teenage kids that they text.

 

So how does a single woman handle the texting, email, phone options with single men?

 

1. Let the man text or email as a start. When you receive the text or email, suggest that they call you to talk about their invitation to get together or firm up plans with your home and cell phone number on the email.
2. Pin down a time for the phone call. Ask the single man who has texted or emailed you to call you between “X and Y” time that you’ll be available to take his call.
3. Let your potential date know that you are looking forward to talking to him. End your email back with something like it was really great meeting you too. I look forward to talking to you evening.

What if single men continue to text or email you?

 

1. Let single men text or email in the beginning of the dating relationship.

 

2. After you have dated a few times, talk to him about how texting and email is great during the business day when it is difficult to take calls and you are firming up plans but you love to talk to your friends.

 

3. As you date regularly, let your man know that you enjoy talking to him on the phone regularly. Say things like you “love the sound of his voice and the “personal contact of chatting”.

4. Let your date know you are on the computer and emailing a lot during the business day that you really like to have more personal contact and chat with friends.