Illinois Sexy After 50

5 reasons women are sexier singles after 50

By Fran Greene Match
When you're over 50, it's hard to feel sexy — or is it? Guys are testosterone-programmed to zero in on 20-somethings in their breeding prime. Most youthful pairings have more to do with hormones than harmony of character. Too often, such matches end in divorce as partners mature and regret their youthful folly.

But having a relationship with a woman of a certain age offers delights never dreamed of by shortsighted boys just embarking on their manhood. Sexy screen sirens like Susan Sarandon and Meryl Streep, journalist Jane Pauley and political pundit Arianna Huffington, are some celebrities who demonstrate that women who have hit the half-century mark are great catches.

If you're over 50, count your blessings. Here are five reasons you're enjoying your sexual prime right now:

1. There's no need to worry about getting knocked up
Most of us grew up with the specter of an unwanted pregnancy perched like a grotesque hood ornament over the backseat of the car, the living room sofa, the marital bed. Now, the monthly ebb and flow of your fertility has likely ended. You can finally hop into bed without that nagging fear of the possible consequences — nine months of swollen ankles and another 20 years of worrying about chicken pox and college tuition. Have as much fun as you want with your lover without checking the calendar, popping a daily pill or inserting a diaphragm.

2. Your figure is rounder
You've no longer got the chest of a 15-year-old boy. As you get older, you've filled out. The words voluptuous and zaftig were made to describe you. Think of yourself as the subject of a Rubens painting. Now that you've got such luscious curves, enjoy them.

3. Self-confidence is sexy
Remember when you were in the first throes of a new romance, all of a sudden you got hit on a lot? That's because you radiated self-confidence; you were loved. Now, in your mature adult years, you should have plenty of self-confidence in your ability to balance a job, the ex, the kids, the bank account, the aging parents, friends, etc. Self-confidence is the biggest turn-on and once you've reached 50, you've got plenty of it.

4. Been there, done that
Now you know what you like. You are a better lover than you were at 20 because you know what turns you on, and you're comfortable telling your partner exactly what you need. Indulge yourself.

5. Older women are more daring
They're the ones signing up for all that adventure travel. Odds are you'll find more older women than men on cruises to the Antarctic, treks through Nepal and gorilla-watching expeditions in Africa. Women are more liberated when the kids move out and allow them to reclaim the lives they put on hold decades ago with their first delivery. That newfound freedom extends into the bedroom. You can experiment with lovemaking techniques that made you blush decades ago. And you no longer need to lock the bedroom door against nocturnal invasions by little ones seeking solace from a storm or nightmares. And who says you have to confine your lovemaking to the bedroom?

The world's your oyster at age 50, so find someone to enjoy it with at Match.com. Start a search for local singles in your area

Check out other Online Dating Services

There are so many online dating services. At last count, there are over 800 online dating services to choose from. So how do you go about finding the best and spending your money wisely?

1. Research online dating sites. Keep in mind that online dating sites that you have never heard of before will have a minimal database and won't be worth your time and money. Try the big online dating sites with name recognition.

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2. Establish a budget. Decide how much money you want to devote to online dating, and set a budget. Some sites charge one-time membership fees, others automatically charge recurring monthly fees to your credit card. Most online dating sites charge between $20-$30 a month. Some with extensive psychological profiles and matching like E-harmony charge $49.95 a month......but watch for their specials where they will sometimes do 2 or 3 months for the price of 1. Match.com will offer a 3 day FREE TRIAL on occasion.


3. Seek recommendations. Talk to trusted friends, colleagues, and family to see if anyone they know has had a positive experience with a particular online dating website.

4. Consider specialized online dating sites. Determine if you have any special interests or unique situations that might require a more specialized online dating website. Some online dating sites cater to customized audiences including political affiliations, sexual preferences, race, religion, etc.

5. Determine pros and cons. Narrow down the list of potential online sites to your top three and compare them to determine pros and cons of each. Pay particular attention to monthly/yearly cost, free versus fee services, and number of website members.

What are some other ways to meet Singles in Illinois?   Go to as many singles events as you can. Variety is the key.  Don't focus on any one type of group.  

First: Meet young single professionals at fundraisers, singles charity and civic organizations.

Second: Join sports leagues, singles hiking, biking, outdoors, or adventures clubs. 

Third: Join a church or religious group for Jewish, Catholic, or Singles. Also check out singles cruises and  travel.  

Newly divorced or single parent? Get help at a singles support or divorce recovery group.