Missouri American Personals
Top 5 mistakes online singles make most
By Margot Carmichael Lester
A recent Match.com survey solicited your responses to the following
"What mistakes do online singles make most?"
Keep reading, fearless singles, as we reveal the results and divulge
details to help you avoid annoying mistakes.
1. Poor spelling and grammer
50 percent of respondents reported
problems with people not checking their spelling and grammar.
Unfortunately, small errors can make a big — and bad — first impression.
"I generally can tell which mistakes are simply typos and which are
symptomatic of duncehood," says Jean-Pierre, 40. "I'll pass on profiles
in which a woman describes herself as 'smart, articulate, witty and
educated' but then types 'could of' for 'could have' or screws up
Lesson learned: Prepare your profile and your responses in
programs that allow you to check spelling and grammar. Read your work
aloud to catch further errors, and run it through the checker one more
time. By then the chances are good that you'll be free of mistakes.
2. The ex files
23 percent of respondents want other
singles to stop writing about their exes. If you need to write
about your last relationship, you're probably not ready for the next
"References to a former relationship speak to me of unresolved issues,"
says Wylecia, 27. "Maybe he was 'done wrong' or maybe he's put his ex on
a pedestal. Either way, it's a big red flag that reads 'Not Ready'."
Lesson learned: Don't disclose too many details until you get to
know someone better. Talking about past relationships can make you come
off as bitter and unavailable to emotionally health-conscious daters.
3. The group shot
13 percent of respondents think including
other people in your photos is problematic.
Each of us has flattering pictures taken in groups, but resist using
them as your primary photo. At best, the group diverts attention from
you. At worst, the viewer might think you're someone you're not.
"A personals photo should be all about you, not your friends," says
Michele, 38. "And no photos with your ex. Maybe in some warped way
you're trying to show you're dateable, but it doesn't work."
Lesson learned: Step into the spotlight. You're the one trying to
attract a date, so why dilute your message by advertising someone else's
face beside yours?
4. The missing link
10 percent of respondents take offense
when someone tries to cut someone else out of their photo.
"There's nothing worse than the disembodied hand or shoulder," says Tim,
29. "If you're going to edit someone out of a photo, use a program that
allows you to airbrush the space so it doesn't look obvious. Cropped
pictures look bad, and they show you're too lazy to do it right. Just
take a new photo."
Lesson learned: Invest in your romantic future by posing for new
pics. Go for fun shots that help other singles see you in your best
light (literally), enjoying favorite activities or hobbies, etc.
5. Gender issues
Three percent of respondents have had it
with Match.com members choosing the wrong gender or gender preference.
"It's only happened a couple of times," says Arturo, 34. "But every so
often, a woman will show up in my list of matches. The first time it
happened, I thought she might be a guy in drag. But then I realized that
she had simply clicked the wrong button — indicating that she was a man
instead of a woman."
Lesson learned: Review all your selections carefully before
confirming your profile. Read all your answers aloud for good measure.
Following these basic tips can help you
avoid common mistakes in your free
profile and may lead you to your ideal match.
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