New Jersey Sexy After 50
5 reasons women are sexier singles after 50
By Fran Greene
When you're over 50, it's hard to feel sexy — or is it? Guys are
testosterone-programmed to zero in on 20-somethings in their breeding prime.
Most youthful pairings have more to do with hormones than harmony of
character. Too often, such matches end in divorce as partners mature and
regret their youthful folly.
But having a relationship with a woman of a certain age offers delights
never dreamed of by shortsighted boys just embarking on their manhood. Sexy
screen sirens like Susan Sarandon and Meryl Streep, journalist Jane Pauley
and political pundit Arianna Huffington, are some celebrities who
demonstrate that women who have hit the half-century mark are great catches.
If you're over 50, count your blessings. Here are five reasons you're
enjoying your sexual prime right now:
1. There's no need to worry about getting knocked up
Most of us grew up with the specter of an unwanted pregnancy perched like a
grotesque hood ornament over the backseat of the car, the living room sofa,
the marital bed. Now, the monthly ebb and flow of your fertility has likely
ended. You can finally hop into bed without that nagging fear of the
possible consequences — nine months of swollen ankles and another 20 years
of worrying about chicken pox and college tuition. Have as much fun as you
want with your lover without checking the calendar, popping a daily pill or
inserting a diaphragm.
2. Your figure is rounder
You've no longer got the chest of a 15-year-old boy. As you get older,
you've filled out. The words voluptuous and zaftig were made to describe
you. Think of yourself as the subject of a Rubens painting. Now that you've
got such luscious curves, enjoy them.
3. Self-confidence is sexy
Remember when you were in the first throes of a new romance, all of a sudden
you got hit on a lot? That's because you radiated self-confidence; you were
loved. Now, in your mature adult years, you should have plenty of
self-confidence in your ability to balance a job, the ex, the kids, the bank
account, the aging parents, friends, etc. Self-confidence is the biggest
turn-on and once you've reached 50, you've got plenty of it.
4. Been there, done that
Now you know what you like. You are a better lover than you were at 20
because you know what turns you on, and you're comfortable telling your
partner exactly what you need. Indulge yourself.
5. Older women are more daring
They're the ones signing up for all that adventure travel. Odds are you'll
find more older women than men on cruises to the Antarctic, treks through
Nepal and gorilla-watching expeditions in Africa. Women are more liberated
when the kids move out and allow them to reclaim the lives they put on hold
decades ago with their first delivery. That newfound freedom extends into
the bedroom. You can experiment with lovemaking techniques that made you
blush decades ago. And you no longer need to lock the bedroom door against
nocturnal invasions by little ones seeking solace from a storm or
nightmares. And who says you have to confine your lovemaking to the bedroom?
The world's your oyster at age 50, so find someone to enjoy it with at
Match.com. Start a
search for local singles in your area
Check out other Online Dating Services
There are so many online dating services. At last count, there are over
800 online dating services to choose from. So how do you go about finding
the best and spending your money wisely?
1. Research online dating sites. Keep in mind that online dating sites
that you have never heard of before will have a minimal database and won't
be worth your time and money. Try the big online dating sites with name
Match.com Try it free for 3 days!
2. Establish a budget. Decide how much money you want to devote to online
dating, and set a budget. Some sites charge one-time membership fees, others
automatically charge recurring monthly fees to your credit card. Most online
dating sites charge between $20-$30 a month. Some with extensive
psychological profiles and matching like E-harmony charge $49.95 a
month......but watch for their specials where they will sometimes do 2 or 3
months for the price of 1. Match.com will offer a 3 day FREE TRIAL on
3. Seek recommendations. Talk to trusted friends, colleagues, and family to
see if anyone they know has had a positive experience with a particular
online dating website.
4. Consider specialized online dating sites. Determine if you have any special interests or
unique situations that might require a more specialized online dating
website. Some online dating sites cater to customized audiences including
political affiliations, sexual preferences, race, religion, etc.
5. Determine pros and cons. Narrow down the list of potential online sites
to your top three and compare them to determine pros and cons of each. Pay
particular attention to monthly/yearly cost, free versus fee services, and
number of website members.
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What are some other ways to meet Singles
in New Jersey? Go to as many singles events as you can. Variety
is the key. Don't focus on any one type of group.
First: Meet young single professionals
at fundraisers, singles charity and civic organizations.
Second: Join sports leagues, singles
hiking, biking, outdoors, or adventures clubs.
Third: Join a church or religious
group for Jewish, Catholic, or Singles. Also check out singles cruises and
Newly divorced or single parent? Get
help at a singles support or divorce recovery group.
What about online dating? Check out
the information on Singlesonthego.com to learn how to place personal ads to
meet single men and women online. You'll also find great dating advice for
online personals and meeting singles by using various dating services,
dating agencies, matchmakers, introductions services. Go ahead, you can do
it!.....check out the singles scene in your area to find a new relationship
today! Check out the list of online dating services above categorized by
general, foreign/ethnic, religious, alternative, senior and single parents.