Virginia Personals Ads and Matchmaking
Top 5 worst personal ads: What NOT to do
By Margot Carmichael Lester
So you've decided to enter the world of
online dating and you're ready to
write your profile. What should you say?
personal ads present you in a good (but realistic) light,
reflecting your personality in your own words. Great personal ads also make
it clear what you are looking for in a mate.
The worst? Well, to help you write the best possible personal, we've put
together a list of five of the most common mistakes:
1. The Uninspired Opening Pay particular attention to your headline
and photo. Poor choices keep people from looking any further. The headline,
"Check me out, I'm not that bad." doesn't exactly exude confidence.
And while this headline, "Big man needs love." isn't horrible, a photo of a
large man displaying his belly leaves nothing to the imagination — and a lot
to be desired. Being big isn't bad, but there are better ways of presenting
2. The Cookie Cutter Your personal should reflect what makes
you uniquely you. Describe yourself and your match in distinctive terms.
Avoid broad terms that are basically meaningless and could describe anyone.
Like this: "I am a warm, honest and caring gal who enjoys spending time with
that special someone. I'm looking for someone who's honest, down to earth,
supportive, affectionate, giving and loyal."
3. The Cliché If you read enough personals, you know there are some
universal truths. They're clichés, like Miss America wanting world peace.
These are the most pervasive: "I love to hold hands and walk on the beach on
moonlit nights or cuddle up in front of a fireplace," and "I look gorgeous
in a gown or jeans. You should look hot in a tux or khakis."
Resist the temptation to add any of these lines to your ad. Using them makes
you seem lazy at best, insincere at worst.
4. The Red Flag Everyone has issues and hot buttons. While honesty is
good, you CAN have too much of a good thing. Instead of attracting people
who won't trip these triggers, ads like this will likely repel them:
"Hoping against all odds to find the woman who is holding the key to my
heart. I denounce liars and will not tolerate frauds. Please don't waste my
"Currently, my daughter's father and I live together. A bachelor/hermit of
42 years, he says he loves me 'as much as he can.' I'm looking for a rich
man who will spoil me and my two angels."
5. The List-maker It's good to be specific about what you're looking
for, but be careful you don't end up posting a litany of requirements like
"I can't stand pianists, cyclists (I do not think spandex is masculine),
musicians or wanna-be artists. Skinny men are repulsive and I do not like
white trash with beards and dirty-looking clothes. If beautiful women aren't
routinely attracted to you, don't bother me."
Who would want to date someone so demanding?
One final tip: Correct spelling and good grammar show an attention to
detail, so type up your personal in a word processing program and use the
spelling and grammar checker. Then, read it out loud (you'll get a feel for
the rhythm AND catch more errors), and run the checkers one more time.
Create a free profile today!
Check out other Online Dating Services
There are so many online dating services. At last count, there are over
800 online dating services to choose from. So how do you go about finding
the best and spending your money wisely?
1. Research online dating sites. Keep in mind that online dating sites
that you have never heard of before will have a minimal database and won't
be worth your time and money. Try the big online dating sites with name
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2. Establish a budget. Decide how much money you want to devote to online
dating, and set a budget. Some sites charge one-time membership fees, others
automatically charge recurring monthly fees to your credit card. Most online
dating sites charge between $20-$30 a month. Some with extensive
psychological profiles and matching like E-harmony charge $49.95 a
month......but watch for their specials where they will sometimes do 2 or 3
months for the price of 1. Match.com will offer a 3 or 7 day FREE TRIAL on
3. Seek recommendations. Talk to trusted friends, colleagues, and family to
see if anyone they know has had a positive experience with a particular
online dating website.
4. Consider specialized online dating sites. Determine if you have any special interests or
unique situations that might require a more specialized online dating
website. Some online dating sites cater to customized audiences including
political affiliations, sexual preferences, race, religion, etc.
5. Determine pros and cons. Narrow down the list of potential online sites
to your top three and compare them to determine pros and cons of each. Pay
particular attention to monthly/yearly cost, free versus fee services, and
number of website members.
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What are some other ways to meet Singles
in Virginia? Go to as many singles events as you can. Variety
is the key. Don't focus on any one type of group.
First: Meet young single professionals
at fundraisers, singles charity and civic organizations.
Second: Join sports leagues, singles
hiking, biking, outdoors, or adventures clubs.
Third: Join a church or religious
group for Jewish, Catholic, or Singles. Also check out singles cruises and
Newly divorced or single parent? Get
help at a singles support or divorce recovery group.
What about online dating? Check out
the information on Singlesonthego.com to learn how to place personal ads to
meet single men and women online. You'll also find great dating advice for
online personals and meeting singles by using various dating services,
dating agencies, matchmakers, introductions services. Go ahead, you can do
it!.....check out the singles scene in your area to find a new relationship
today! Check out the list of online dating services above categorized by
general, foreign/ethnic, religious, alternative, senior and single parents.